Whenever you’re transitioning in life there are two feelings that always arise. One is the fear of “what if” this new path will not work out and the other is the excitement of the new venture you’re undertaking. In both these feelings, they are always present the deceitful saboteurs who delay our progress.
Have you ever felt this way before?
I have felt this so many times and I’m sure you have experienced this too before. Have you ever wanted to do something so much however your inner self-talk took you on a different tangent? Yes, your inner saboteurs were louder than your purpose and passion! You’re not alone in this challenge and I know that when we have to make a decision in life, we have a tendency to make excuses and choose the easier route. It’s super natural.
And this is why is so important to dive deep into the recurring “fear” that you might feel and shift that disempowering belief into a positive gift or opportunity even if you fail at it. Wouldn’t it be better to have tried and failed than never have experienced it before?
“It’s better to have tried and failed than to live life wondering what would’ve happened if I had tried” ~ Alfred Lord Tennyson
The moment you embrace “failure” as a bump on the road, and have the courage to dust yourself off and do it again with a different perspective, the quicker you will be able to move toward your goals and what you truly want to achieve. I love this quote that I’ve known for years and use on myself often, “Failure is not a tattoo, it’s just a bruise”.
Every time I feel a bit discouraged or something is not going my way, I think about this statement and suddenly it becomes clear that whatever I’m not succeeding at the moment shall pass and it’s not going to mark me forever, it will only bruise me. And the solution for our “bruises” is healing with compassion and forgiveness.
Having failed in life a few times gave me an opportunity to learn from my mistakes and do better and better next time around. However, I also know that the only person do something about my failures, is myself. Nobody else is going to do it for me. So once I became aware of my inner saboteurs and learned how to accept them and intercept them, I started to feel a wave of inner peace and stop being so hard on myself.
I elaborate more on this in my interview with JP Horgan and where I speak from the heart about what is really stopping us from reaching our fullest potential.
Jp Horgan is a Human Transformation coach; unbounding boundaries for coaches, individuals, and businesses. As a Certified Life and Business coach, with a specialization in positive psychology, Jp is an expert at installing empowering habits and a magic mindset to gain personal mastery over the body, mind, and spirit.
As the owner of the Next Steps Academy and The phase 4 podcast; what we focus on expands, Jp offers a judgment free, safe and secure space for purging old patterns through consciousness engineering, habit transformation, and introspection. As an established coach, facilitator and mentor; Jp brings a curious, educational style, inspiring all those who receive the love and support he offers to his tribe.
With a plethora of signature tools such as The N-90 Protocol and My5, and a lifetime of previous work experience in all levels; government, non-profit, private, and family-owned sectors, Jp understands that every path is unique therefore the Next Steps are different for everyone.
The Truth About Your Inner Saboteurs
Within each of us, there exists a pesky presence of saboteurs that relentlessly feed us deceitful lies, making us doubt every step we take in life. But fear not, as a PQ Mental Fitness Coach, I am here to guide you towards awareness, interception, and empowerment in the face of these challenges.
Did you know that even these saboteurs harbour incredible underlying strengths? Take, for instance, the Pleaser Saboteur, whose boundless love and generosity allow you to provide others with invaluable wisdom. Your emotional intelligence and deep connection to your audience’s desires and needs are truly a superpower.
Similarly, the Hyper-Vigilant possesses an extraordinary sensitivity and awareness of risks, not just to oneself but also to others and institutions. This keen sense of discernment prevents you from taking unnecessary risks and ensures the overall effectiveness of your endeavours. Recognizing the risks of inaction is a powerful trait to possess.
Are you curious to identify your own saboteurs and learn how to intercept them? I extend to you an invitation to join my transformative virtual retreat, “Ditch Your Doubts & Propel Your Business Vision.” In this retreat, you will have the opportunity to assess your saboteurs and acquire practical tools to keep your self-doubt and self-talk in check.
Remember this: failure is not a permanent mark upon your being, but merely a passing bruise that heals with time.
Embrace the truth that there are always gifts and opportunities awaiting you on the other side of your mistakes. By releasing the grip on what once was, you open yourself up to the boundless possibilities of what could be.
So, my friend, let us embark on this empowering journey together. Shed the shackles of self-doubt and step into a realm where your true potential shines brightly. The path to greatness awaits, and I am here to support you every step of the way.
Transitioning into group coaching can come with its own challenges.
As a matter of fact, transitioning into anything in our lives can make us doubt all the actions we take and delay our progress.
Especially if you are transitioning from your corporate life into pursuing a different direction. The uncertainty of the destination you want to go to can make your knees weak and shatter your confidence.
And this is why we sabotage our progress and growth. However, it doesn’t have to be that way!
If you’ve been wondering HOW can you grow your unique community, and embrace the freedom and joy of group coaching, listen to the interview below where I chat with Eve Voyevoda.
Eve was the Genius behind my personal and business brand. She captured my true essence, personality, and identity and created my brand voice, tone, and elements amongst other crucial things that you need to have in mind when having your brand designed and laid out.
Even though Eve discovered my essence and my brand identity, I had to embody this change which then helped me to transition into what I am passionate about doing.
I need to be raw with you here and let you know that all this “change” takes time to materialise. You must listen attentively to your inner voice and take imperfect-inspired action toward what you want to achieve in life or business.
These are some of the topics that we talked about during our inspiring conversation:
Transformation in our lives can happen at any moment. Listen to what your inner voice is telling you and follow your dreams. Discover WHO you really are and WHAT you’re passionate about. What is your inner voice telling you?
Know that your brand EVOLVES with you. So, stick with it and your brand will mature. I urge you to have a conversation with Eve to find out how this is possible.
Find out how being visible can impact your life and business. I mention also an important distinction between visibility versus Invisibility.
Whenever you become overwhelmed with a certain circumstance in your life… stop… and slow down in order to speed up. What does matter in your life right now? What do you need to prioritise first in your life so that you can grow and move forward?
I’ve learned that what you focus on expands and therefore it is crucial to have an external guide that can help you SEE what you can’t and help you find the answers within you toward what you truly want to achieve.
The magic that you discover with group coaching will elevate your current business. Just imagine the impact you can make on a global scale!
Recently I’ve come across this quote which makes so much sense and hopefully you will feel the same way too. I was actually reminded of this by another inspiring woman entrepreneur from my community.
You can’t read the label from inside the bottle.
This means that you are too close to your own problems and often times you need a different perspective from another person that can encourage you and guide you toward what you truly desire. A brand new set of eyes that will beam some wisdom, knowledge, and expertise into your business and life goals.
Someone that has been through the transformation that you seek and can help you trust your own self and be the compass of your own life.
We are so wrapped up in our own little life bubbles that we can’t see clearly what is in front of us. I’m no different than you, this bubble is our safety net. It is what we create to keep us safe from our environments and others’ judgmental remarks.
And oftentimes they keep us shielded from our insecurities, negative thoughts, and conditioned beliefs. These disempowering saboteurs are keeping us fearful and not letting us move on.
Once we shift into a more liberating and empowering way of dealing with our challenges, the sooner we start noticing radical changes toward a happier and more joyful life. When we finally slay our saboteurs, we become the best version of ourselves and therefore life is more playful and flows easily.
What Your Parents Never Told You About Escaping the 9 to 5
Our parent’s love and knowledge sometimes can cloud our own purpose and passion in life.
They don’t mean any harm. It’s all they know and they were taught since childhood. For that matter, when they tell us “you must work hard to be someone in life” or “If you don’t have a degree, you won’t be anybody in life”. All these words and statements are their own reality. It is not yours!
And it definitely is not the reality NOWADAYS!
Would you rather follow a career that you hate and doesn’t fulfill you? Would you rather do a job day in and day out like a robot just because you were told that you were not good for anything else?
What Your Parents Never Told You About Escaping the 9 to 5 and why group programs could be a choice for your business:
1 – You’ll be working with a small group of people once a week for one hour instead of overloading your schedule with your 1-on1 clients. Especially if you work 40 hours a week in your job. Where can you find the time? Small groups can be run in your spare time or over the weekend.
2 – You’ve got enough time to plan your launch campaigns ahead of time. Time is relative and precious and when we want to achieve a goal in life, time is timeless. I know, I’m being philosophical but the reality is that TIME should never stop us from achieving what we want. Ask yourself this question, “If you have all the time in the world to do something, what would you do?”.
3 – You can go visible online in your own free time. It takes literally no time at all to go live on one of your social media platforms and start talking about your journey. The problem is that pressing that GO LIVE button is sometimes daunting and scary. This is something that you must work on so that it doesn’t keep you playing small. Oftentimes, this scary act is due to the inner demons that are talking to you on a daily basis and soothing your ego with comfortable thoughts.
4 – You don’t need the bells and whistles to start with. In fact, I have helped Coaches launch their programs with just a very simple delivery system and no membership site. This is exactly what I am going to talk about in my upcoming 5 Steps to 5K in 5 Weeks Intensive Bootcamp.
5 – If you’re doing your coaching on the side you already have all the content you need. No point in overthinking it. Keep it simple.
6 – With a group model, It’s very doable to achieve £5k-£10k+ from your 1st group program launch. How much you will profit from your group program depends on the size of the group that you are envisioning to have and then you just need to do the math. Imagine you just want a quick cash injection in your business so that you can go on that holiday that you’ve always wanted! With the system I use with my clients, this is very possible to achieve. The only thing stopping you is your ability to take a risk and see the possibilities.
7 – What your parents never told you about escaping the 9 to 5 is that when you follow what you love to do, you start to work smarter, not harder. When we perform our tasks with passion, time flies and we are happy doing what we love. Your parents never told you this because in a way they didn’t know that themselves. Your parents were taught differently and then passed on what they learned to you.
Unfortunately for me, it took a long and arduous journey to realize what I was meant to do… my passionate WHY! However and in the wise words of someone, “better late than never” is a saying that I often tell myself to keep focused on my path and not beat myself up.
You see, I wanted to pursue a design career in my life. However, at the age of 15, I wasn’t mature enough to choose my direction and therefore I chose the easiest path.
I went about my life through corporate always with a feeling that something was missing but couldn’t tell exactly WHAT. For my parents as long as I had a stable paying job, that was all that mattered. They knew that I was safe and paying my bills. However, I wasn’t happy and that feeling grew inside of me like a snowball until the day that I said “enough is enough” and took the leap from my 9 to 5. I was already in my mid-forties when I discovered what I wanted to do. My love and passion for design grew once again inside me. That passion is mirrored in the results I give my clients.
MasteryAt times we don’t see clearly what we actually want to achieve until we talk with somebody that has been through what we want to be and have. That’s why I’ve put together an Intensive Bootcamp tailored for you if you want to explore the incredible possibilities with online group programs/courses. I am going to show you exactly the 5 steps you’ll need to take in order to package and profit from your first group program. My upcoming webinar is full of amazing surprises when you attend in person and ask your nagging questions.
𝘖𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘍𝘙𝘌𝘌 “𝙋𝙖𝙘𝙠𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝘼𝙣𝙙 𝙋𝙧𝙤𝙛𝙞𝙩” 𝘸𝘦𝘣𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘮𝘺 5 𝘴𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘱𝘴 you need to build your 1st group program:
⚡️ Unleash Your Inner Creative Power
⚡️ Craft Your Offer So It Converts
⚡️ Super Simple Delivery System
⚡️ Your Client Attraction Mastery
⚡️ How Top Coaches Close Sales With Integrity
Don’t miss out on this fantastic group coaching masterclass with me. 👇
Do you find yourself running out of ideas? Feeling insecure about what to create?
Or even have you ever told yourself “I’m not creative at all!”.
I truly believe that we are all Creators in a body and therefore what you might perceive as being creative, might not be serving you anymore. Are you possibly taking it for granted and disregarding this ability? Are you not seeing the greater picture?
Become aware that your creativity will allow you to think, feel and be a Creative Goddess.
Creativity is the freest form of self-expression. There is nothing more satisfying and fulfilling than to be able to express ourselves openly and without judgment.
The thing is that at the moment you believe that you are NOT creative! Maybe, others around you have told you that you’re not and so you have been accepting this as the truth and living your life as others want you to.
In a stressful moment and in times when we have too much in our head, there isn’t flow. Therefore and amongst other things creativity doesn’t flow and it’s not present. We retreat into our little cocoon and hold on to our safety net!
So, in order to have a continuous flow, we must consistently create an unfamiliar daily habit so that with time it turns into a “familiar” habit which we are confident with having in our lives. In order to create a habit, however, we need to make a commitment to ourselves and make a promise to stay consistent doing it on a regular basis. It won’t happen overnight and it will take persistence and focus so that you’re able to shift your energy vibration.
So, what can you do to boost your creative power?
These are some techniques that I’ve used over time that has worked for me. Feel free to adopt or adapt some of them to suit your needs.
5 Daily Habits to Boost Your Creative Power
Unplug from distractions
The online world can be very noisy and therefore we must find ways of switching off from our devices and recharge. I remember a time that I was glued to my mobile like an addict. I needed to be on it 24/7 as if I was going to miss out on something. Others were asking me: “Sofia, do you ever sleep?”.
It was exhausting so I ought to do something about it to restore my sanity. It all started when I went on a road trip with my family that I truly unplugged and allowed my assistant to take charge of my activities. I stopped controlling everything and I loved it. I started to enjoy other meaningful things around me.
Find your happy space
Do you have a place that you retreat to and you feel so good that when you come back from it, you feel energized and super happy? Mine is the beach and the sea. I love escaping to the beach and reflecting. Maybe it is the sea breeze or just the sensations of feeling the sand tickling my feet. All I know is that when I return home I’m a different person. Do you have a happy place? The mountains? Is it a forest? Or just your back garden?
Meditate to Alleviate
Since I started doing regular meditations, my life and myself have completely changed. Coming from a buzzing and demanding corporate life, it took me years to focus on my own business. And so, when I discovered the power of guided meditations, I started to see and feel a shift within myself. Have you tried it? What has been your experience with it?
I know that meditation doesn’t have to be hardcore and I also know that you will find the right practice for you.
As a certified 6 Phase Meditation Trainer with Evercoach by Mindvalley, I’m inviting you to listen to this guided meditation first thing in the morning. Repeat it daily as many times as you can.
Get Active
Exercise, movement, and activity are proven to expand creative thinking, brain processing, and memory. So true though… even just going for a walk for 30 minutes sends the right signals to your brain and keeps you in the right state of mind for the rest of the day. What I normally do is dance weirdly to some uplifting music to get my creative juices flowing! Ahhhh so good. Funny enough, it is keeping you fit too. Whenever I find that I’m stuck in what I want to create, build or do… I dance and sing along. Let me know if you tried this to boost your creative power?
Take a step back
Now, this is crucial… take a step back away from the problem that you are currently experiencing. Do you find yourself going around and around in circles without finding the solution to whatever challenge you are facing? Let me reassure you that you are not alone! I’m often in this situation. Therefore I have to step away from my computer, social media and oftentimes step away from people so that I can focus on certain ideas for some projects that I’m doing. Don’t take me wrong I love people and I can’t imagine myself without people around me. However, I need to retreat to boost my creative thinking so that I can better perform.
It’s a Wrap
I hope that some of these practices will help you to boost your creative power. Most importantly is to start today with creating a consistent daily habit that you feel comfortable with. It doesn’t need to be all of these that I mention above. Start small and build it up as you go along your journey of discovery of your creative powers. Remember that once you were a child and there was nothing stopping you from imagining and just creating your sandcastles without the pressure of all being perfect.
Let me know in the comments what are you going to put in place?
We are so busy doing that we forget being. The art of “Be a Fierce You” takes persistence and resilience to come to fruition.
In order for this to happen, you need to practice focused attention on what matters most in your life otherwise chaos sets in, and desperation will be your best friend. The Art of Being you doesn’t happen from one day to the next. It takes persistence, tenacity, and resilience to navigate the setbacks in your life so, ask yourself:
“Does this serve me right now? And is it aligned with what I want?
We are so focused on pleasing others and avoiding unpleasant circumstances in life that we forget to just be ourselves. Our careers take center stage most of our lives and so we forget to pursue our dreams and desires. Transitioning from a single life of no set times for anything (except going to work) and becoming a mother isn’t an easy journey to take and it comes with its tribulations.
You see… We are attracted to what is familiar to us because that is what we know and so it’s easier to endure. For anything else that is a bit more challenging, we close our eyes and don’t even think of what’s on the other side. In our minds, we make up stories so that we don’t have to experience what’s on the other side of the unknown.
The stories we tell ourselves are super powerful! Do you remember when you were a little girl and every single story you read in a book, you would live as if it was real? You were a character in that book. As you grew, the painful stories started to emerge and you were taken hostage by the narrative. The thing is, you can change that story in your head when you start being true to yourself instead of staying where you are at the moment and living by other people’s rules.
I’ve endured a few transitions in my life. From seeking my own freedom, starting a new venture in a new country, singlehood joys, several career moves, one divorce, two marriages, the pleasures of motherhood and the challenges too, moving back to my home country, and so on. You might be thinking that I am super tenacious and resilient but the truth is that I am just like you.
Sometimes I would just want to curl up and disappear… give up even. However, something stronger was keeping me on my path. And even when I felt like I was going to lose my footing, I would hop and stubbornly still move forward.
I’ve done my fair share of reflection recently and having a daughter who just turned 18, has given me a new perspective on life. My daughter is soon starting her own journey in life, which has made me ponder that no matter what I do or say I’ve got to stop projecting my beliefs onto her and let her navigate the murky waters of life herself so that she can experience each life chapter with clarity, conviction and being in tune with her purpose.
The time for her to “fly away freely and be herself” is approaching.
It is not with sadness that I see this new transition for her but with pride and my heart full of love. Coming from someone that flew away at 25 years old and has been through several storms and extraordinary moments, I know that she is going to follow her dreams and desires because she is the most fearless young woman I’ve ever seen.
I want to inspire her that no matter what happens in her life, she can be brave, and fierce to pursue her truest desires. And I want to same for you too. I hope this article will inspire you to BE you in whatever you do in life.
“Fly away and be you”
Your essence is innate to you
Cocooned like a butterfly,
Subtle beauty grew
A cry and a smile fluttered by.
You run courageous and free
Not a care in the world,
you learned to see and be
cautiously you heard the chirping of birds.
Venturing into your life you have to bear
and discovered many incredible lessons
Teachings to guide you and prepare
This life chapter full of questions.
Gracious, loving, and loved
You grew into a powerful woman,
A million times you’ve been hugged
to turn you into a passionate human.
Go and fly away little butterfly
Contemplate the beautiful flowers
Life is a prairie to be discovered by
and inspire others with your Superpowers.
~ Poem by Sofia Pacifico Reis
Reflection
No matter what changes you want to have in your life, slow down to listen to the messages that the universe is giving you. Even in the most painful moments, know that it’s up to you to allow those moments to become a gift or an opportunity. You are in control of your thoughts and the words you say to the outer world. Your story can be changed, erased, and recreated just the way you want it to be. It’s your choice to find happiness in your life or remain stagnated and unfulfilled.
What are you choosing to be? Are you a human doing or a human being? Are you going through a major life transition and you don’t know which path to take?
My coaching style allows you to dig deep into the abyss and explore the possibilities you have for your life and business because I believe that we all have within us the power to excel and reach our true potential. It is time to discover the best version of you and own your power back.
Olá I'm Sofia and I'm a 9 to 5 Exit Strategist & Program Launch Coach
As a result of working with me my clients launch their signature membership site programs in line with their highest vision! They become visible online with confidence, they love achieving their desired income without all the tech frustrations because I do it all for them!
I work with aspiring coaching entrepreneurs who feel ready to become their own boss fearlessly.
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